У Вас контроллер чем тактируется?
Для генерации программатором тактирования используется ключик -o0.

Похоже, не только в цитате в форум, но и в реальной жизни не хватает пробелов между отдельными ключами.
Не а

поправил, все равно не помогло

D:\avreal>avreal32 +tiny2313 -as -p1 -o1MHz -r -c 1.hex -%%

avreal/WIN32 - AVR controllers programmer by Redchuk Alexandr
v1.28r6 (Jan 9 2011 20:19:58) http://real.kiev.ua/avreal
bug-reports, suggestions and so on mail to avreal@real.kiev.ua
Command:
+tiny2313 -as -p1 -o1MHz -r -c 1.hex -%%
% LPT port number 1
% LPT base address 0x378
% DLportIO.dll succesfully loaded, DLportIO.sys interface activated
% LPT write cycle 1.96us
% Atmel adapter for STK*00 found
% STK adapter mode
% MCU oscillator frequency = 1.00MHz
% setup 2.10us, hold 2.10us
% actual SCK frequency 102kHz
Adapter enabled
% Reset
% PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 1 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 2 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 3 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 4 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
Can't resync

Reset pin released
Adapter disabled

D:\avreal>avreal32 +tiny2313 -as -p1 -o0 -r -c 1.hex -%%

avreal/WIN32 - AVR controllers programmer by Redchuk Alexandr
v1.28r6 (Jan 9 2011 20:19:58) http://real.kiev.ua/avreal
bug-reports, suggestions and so on mail to avreal@real.kiev.ua
Command:
+tiny2313 -as -p1 -o0 -r -c 1.hex -%%
% LPT port number 1
% LPT base address 0x378
% DLportIO.dll succesfully loaded, DLportIO.sys interface activated
% LPT write cycle 1.62us
% Atmel adapter for STK*00 found
% STK adapter mode
% 0.31MHz XTAL will be generated
% with SCK low 2 periods, high 2 periods
Adapter enabled
% Reset
% PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 1 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 2 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 3 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
% Try 4 to resync by reset pulse % PgmOn reply FF FF FF FF
Can't resync

Reset pin released
Adapter disabled

внутренним генератором

8МГЦ я так понимаю.
А в этом MCU имеется предделитель частоты (фьюз-бит типа CKDIV8)?
Если да и он включен попробуйте дать программатору аргументом частоту пониже ну к примеру Килогерц 200 чтоб наверняка...

200 не помогло

помогло меньше

большое спасибо откликнувшимся...

C:\avreal>avreal32 +tiny2313 -as -p1 -o20 -r -c 1.hex -%%

avreal/WIN32 - AVR controllers programmer by Redchuk Alexandr
v1.28r6 (Jan 9 2011 20:19:58) http://real.kiev.ua/avreal
bug-reports, suggestions and so on mail to avreal@real.kiev.ua
Command:
+tiny2313 -as -p1 -o20 -r -c 1.hex -%%
% LPT port number 1
% LPT base address 0x378
% DLportIO.dll succesfully loaded, DLportIO.sys interface activated
% LPT write cycle 1.20us
% Atmel adapter for STK200 found
% STK adapter mode
% MCU oscillator frequency = 20.0kHz
% setup 105us, hold 105us
% actual SCK frequency 4.7kHz
Adapter enabled
% Reset
% PgmOn reply FF FE 53 00
% Synchronised after 1 try
% GetID reply 00 30 00 1E
% GetID reply 00 30 00 91
% GetID reply 00 30 00 0A
% Read ID: 0x1E910A
Device connected, tiny2313|tiny2313A detected
% Read Lock command 58 00 00 00, reply 00 58 00 FF
Chip not locked
% Read Osccal command 38 00 00 00, reply 00 38 00 5E
% Read Osccal command 38 00 01 00, reply 00 38 00 5D
% Read Fuses command 50 00 00 00, reply 00 50 00 64
% Read Fuses command 58 08 00 00, reply 00 58 08 DF
% Read Fuses command 50 08 00 00, reply 00 50 08 FF
Fuses
OSCCALs = 5E 5D
_LOW = 0x64
CKDIV = 0
CKOUT = 1
SUT = 2
CKSEL = 4
_HIGH = 0xDF
DWEN = 1
EESAVE = 1
WDTON = 1
BODLEVEL = 7
RSTDISBL = 1
_EXT = 0xFF
SELFPRGEN = 1
Reading CODE memory
.... done (14.1s)
Total time 14.4s
Reset pin released
Adapter disabled